Soft fluffy stuff...




This is the way we brush our teeth...

Brush our teeth … Brush our teeth … This is the way we brush our teeth on one fine Sunday morning.






Change of seasons

Fall is definitely gone. Winter is here to stay.








Baby, we were born to run...

‘Born to Run’ is my most favorite Bruce Springsteen album. It was first released 30 years ago. To celebrate the 30th anniversary, a digitally remastered CD along with 2 DVDs was released last month as a 3-disc set. One of the DVDs is a live recording from a 1975 ‘Born to Run’ concert in London. I must order it soon.


Holiday Cards 2005


Thanksgiving 2005 - II





I know these are not great pictures, but, didn’t have much time to spend with her on Thursday morning with all the activities in the kitchen.


Thanksgiving 2005

Thanksgiving this year was wonderful. We had a full house with 23 friends and family members celebrating the harvest festival. There were the usual suspects from New Jersey and also my parents visiting from India. We had a shortened menu this year. Here is what we made for our turkey-less vegetarian Thanksgiving feast:

Appetizers: Chex mix, Brandied apples with goat cheese, Cheeses (Brie with fig preserves, Manchego, Gouda) and crackers.

Main dishes: Mashed potatoes and gravy, Green bean cassarole, Broccolli and cheesy rice, Pasta salad, Broccolli salad, Cranberry salad, Almond bread (brought by one of the guests).

Desserts: Cheesecake, Jell-O with fruits, Death by Chocolate, Assorted chocolate truffles (custom-made by a friend)

Here are some pictures of food


Clockwise from bottom-left: Mashed Potatoes, Gravy, Pasta Salad, Broccolli Salad, Cheesy Rice, Green Bean Cassarole, Cranberry Salad


Cheesecake aka calorie bomb


Jell-O with fruits & truffles


Death by chocolate



People in the background

All morning shows on network TV, feature the weather(wo)man standing in front of a group of screaming/waving people to talk about the national weather forecast. What do these people in the background achieve? What makes them decide to go to these studios in NY city, stand outside in rain or snow or cold weather for an hour or two and wave/scream at the camera for a few seconds? I just don’t get it.


Yesterday, Ashwini and I were coming home. It was raining and was already completely dark at 5:30pm. We were stuck in traffic caused by an accident. Didn’t want Ashwini to get cranky and then, spiral downwards into a crying frenzy, so, I was giving in to all her requests. Answer to all the questions was, “Yes, Dear”.

  1. Can you turn on the lights?
  2. Can I have your sunglasses?
  3. Can I read a book?
  4. Can I eat some raisins?
  5. Can you put ‘Mamma Mia’ (by ABBA) on the radio?

The last one just made me burst into a laugh. For some strange reason, she likes that song.


I know an old lady

Ashwini’s preschool has this book, I know an old lady, that she likes very much. So, we bought it for her and here is how it starts off…

I know an old lady who swallowed a fly. I don't know why she swallowed that fly. Perhaps, she'll die.

I know an old lady who swallowed a spider. That wriggled and jiggled and wiggled inside her. She swallowed the spider to catch the fly. But I don’t know why she swallowed that fly. Perhaps, she’ll die.

And, it goes on and on like that. The illustrations are quite funny and have lots of pop-ups and flaps. No wonder Ashwini likes it.

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Good Morning... indeed

I usually turn on the TV while getting ready in the morning to check the weather forecast. While the TV was on and I waited for weather, watched these two stories on ABC’s Good Morning America. I was just standing there and shaking my head in disbelief.

The first sotry was - To Cry, or Not To Cry: ‘Ferberizing’ Clarified - about Dr. Ferber, a child sleep specialist. He wrote a book 20 years ago with guidelines for parents to teach their infants sleep on their own. It talks about letting a child cry for longer and longer periods of time before going in to pat or comfort the child. This teaches the children how to become self-reliant. He claimed that this method worked in 7 days. Dr. Ferber was interviewed on the show and he said that his method is one of the things that can be useful but, he didn’t claim that it will work with every child and people should decide depending on how kids react.

As a parent, I had read this book and had tried out this method but, soon realised that it was not working, as we couldn’t just sit and listen to our daughter cry. So, we chose to do something different. There were a couple of women on the show who were very angry. They had followed the Ferber method and now feel that they may have harmed their children. Why did these people HAVE to just follow what they read in a book? Couldn’t they think and decide for themselves as a parent after reading the book and trying it out. Is it too much to expect people to think? Is it so hard?

The second story was: Pregnant 37-Year-Old Charged With Molesting 15-Year-Old Husband. This was really bizzare. This 37 year old woman got involved with her son’s friend. The only problem is that this friend was only 15 years old. Even more bizzare twist is that State of Georgia issued a marriage license for them and they got married. There is a loophole in the age requirement for marriage if the girlfriend is pregnant. Now, that woman is being charged for molesting her own husband. The interview of 15 year old’s grandmother was worth watching. It was quite hillarious.

At this point, I had had enough of news. Final conclusion: The morning news shows are turning into the likes of Oprah and Jerry Springer.


O Brother, Where Art Thou?

In the highways, in the hedges In the highways, in the hedges In the highways, in the hedges I’ll be somewhere working for my lord I’ll be somewhere working, I’ll be somewhere working, I’ll be somewhere working for my lord I’ll be somewhere working, I’ll be somewhere working, I’ll be somewhere working for my lord If he calls me, I’ll answer If he calls me, I’ll answer If he calls me, I’ll answer I’ll be somewhere working for my lord I’ll be somewhere working, I’ll be somewhere working, I’ll be somewhere working for my lord I’ll be somewhere working, I’ll be somewhere working, I’ll be somewhere working for my lord In the highways, in the hedges In the highways, in the hedges In the highways, in the hedges I’ll be somewhere working for my lord


Dilemma about smoking

As a result of the big multi-billion dollar settlement between the tobacco companies and several state governments in US, a lot of this settlement money started trickling down to state universities. This ‘puff-money’ was used to fund big-price items at various Universities. I know of at least 3 high-field NMR spectrometers (each costing several millions + cost of new facilities to house them) installed in last couple of years. This is just great news for researchers like me who work in this field to have more of these magnets around and get access to them. Also, more ‘puff-money’ is being generated through increased taxes on cigarettes.

Here is my dilemma… I know smoking is bad for one’s health. So, I would encourage my friends and family members to quit smoking. But, at the same time I would like to see people smoking to generate more ‘puff-money’ that can be used for bio-medical research.

This sounds really bad. There must be a way to make people stop smoking and fund research projects at the same time.

BTW, November 17th is the “Smoke-out” day. Keep your airways clean for at least one day, my smoker friends.


Rockstar for toddlers

Laurie Berkner is often called the rockstar for toddlers. She used to be a teacher and makes great kids' music. We saw her on ‘Noggin’ TV a few months ago and Ashwini just loves her music. It is very hummable for parents too.

This is a link for one of her albums that we own. It is highly recommended for kids 2 and above.


Happy 2.6667th Birthday, Ashwini!!!


Ashwini helping me clean up leaves from our deck.

This month, I am late by 3 days. This is not excusable. But, being busy at work and busy at home with Ashwini has made me lose track of time. Most days, I don’t know what date it is.

I am continuing with last month’s format by transcribing a couple of notes from her preschool:

  • Sept. 29, 2005: Ashwini has made some great gains this week. She is becoming more responsive in the large group and requires less direct instruction. At family group time, the children painted self-portraits. Ashwini picked a paint color that was very close to her skin color and when I asked what color yarn she wanted for the hair, she said, "My hair is black, Sara".
  • Oct. 21, 2005: I am so excited for Ashwini, she is really starting to bloom socially. This week she seeked Payton out to come play with her outside. She asked Syd to sit by her at lunch. On the bus-ride home from the Pumpkin Factory, Ashwini & Payton sat next to each other and were talking about the leaves on the trees and being silly at the Pumpkin Factory.
  • Nov. 4, 2005: Ashwini had a lot of fun this week playing our phonemic awareness game, for example: we found one compound word (hotdog) and turned it into two words (hot and dog). She also liked playing Spanish bingo. When Ms. Luz would call out something she had on her board, Ashwini would say, "Yo lo tengo" (I have it). She was also a big help setting up for lunch.


  • Ashwini has been showing interest in learning Spanish with Ms. Luz, who comes to their preschool class one hour per week. Now, Ashwini can count to 10 in Spanish and knows a lot of simple words. I have to get a book for myself and learn a few things to help her practise at home. She is also learning to count in Marathi and can count upto 5.
  • Finally, the much anticipated and dreaded 'why' questions have started. Here is a snippet of conversation between Ashwini and her Aajoba (Grandfather):

    Ashwini: Why do you have white hair, Aajoba? Aajoba: Because I am an old man. Ashwini: Why are you an old man?

    This kind of questioning goes on about everything around her.

  • Ashwini is getting exposed to American football this year. I was watching a game and got excited about a play and started shouting, "touchdown... touchdown". Ashwini was standing near me. She promptly bent over and touched the ground. Seeing that, I couldn't stop laughing for several minutes.
  • Last night, she had a lot of her painting stuff just spread around (to our eyes) on the floor. Getting annoyed with all the mess, V was starting to put it all back in its bag. Ashwini came running to her and said, "Aai, don't move that. That is my creation." It is just surprising how she uses these big words appropriately.






lolli

Contemplating the future of a lollipop…





One of her father’s bad influences



Is USA not good enough?

Last week, I was called to sign my name on a patent application. That form also asked for the citizenship of the person. The admin who prepared the forms had prefilled that field as ‘USA’. I pointed it out to her to make a correction that I am a citizen of India. She jokingly asked if USA wasn’t good enough for me to be a citizen. I have spent most of my adult life in US and it has been very happy, but, this conversation started me thinking about all the things that I think are wrong about the United States. I don’t want to make that list here, but, write about just one incident mentioned by a co-worker.

This man is a very successful scientist and his wife is a tenured professor at Michigan State University and runs a big lab with big research grants. They take an active interest in their children’s education and volunteered to participate in ‘Career Day’ at their daughter’s school. The school teacher organising the ‘Career Day’ called them a few days before the event to inform them that they need not go for it. No children had signed up to talk with the ‘Scientists’. They were completely taken by surprise. Their own daughter went to meet with the ‘hairdresser’ to explore it as a future career option.

Students doing well in science and math are looked down upon and termed geeks and nerds. It is just very uncool to do well in school, especially for girls. This really scares me. What is my daughter going to do when she goes to school?


Flu vaccine

Ashwini received Influenza vaccination last night. While we waited in the examination room, Ashwini was standing up on the table and looking out of the window. The nurse walked in after about 10-15 minutes.

Nurse: Hi Ashwini, what do you see outside the window? Are there any cars? Ashwini: No. I am looking at Venus and Mars.
I am not sure if any of those planets were visible from that window, but, I was just very happy to hear her answer. The nurse was totally taken by surprise... A two and half year old talking about spotting planets in the sky... I was showing her the planets almost an hour earlier while we drove to the doctor's office, but we weren't talking about them at the doctor's office.

The nurse administered the shot with such quickness, that it was all done even before Ashwini could look at the needle. No crying, no tears or protests from Ashwini. Ashwini happily said goodbye to the nurse and asked for a lollipop. I hope we get this same nurse for all our future vaccinations.


Trick or Treat

Loook, it's Blue from Blue's clues....