@stupendousman Please don't take this as preaching or pointing fingers at you; it just reminded me of something I had heard earlier. We had a seminar at work last year where the speaker talked about DEI issues such as implicit bias and she gave some examples of how we unintentionally say something that could be avoided. In your story of this annoying person that troubled you at the airport, I assume her race or gender had nothing to do with it but, we tend to unconsciously connect these details and maybe it is a good idea to be mindful of it.